When I started toilet training Oliver I got him a lovely pink and white toilet type potty. Pink is his favourite colour. He would sit on it and do nothing which I expected. It was more to get him used to having no nappy on and trying it at his pace, just to see if he was ready. He wasn’t the first time, but I left the potty out and I would put dolls on and say “baby doing wee wee” or “baby doing poo poo”. Do not underestimate the humour in the word poo!
Then Popples got to an age where she showed interest. I decided to do them both at the same time, Olly loves a competition. No pants, lots of drinks, trying them every ten minutes then playing in between. Big praise every time one of them achieved something. It took a week or so but they were both pretty quick and she liked wearing knickers with Peppa pig on them and he refused the George Pig undies I had bought him so I went and got boxers like daddy’s which were acceptable. So for the next couple of weeks they were just in undies in the house to make it quicker when they needed the wee. Brilliant!
We have a toilet upstairs in the bathroom and a little downstairs toilet which we replaced and provided steps and the child seat insert. Oliver loved flushing the toilet so did his business to get his reward-flushing. She was more apprehensive as she was tiny still, under 18 months so we kept the potty available for her.
Earlier this year I cleaned the potty and put it away as they are now 4 and 6 and can use the toilet. Oliver stopped using the toilet. He’d wet his pants, wee on the floor or in his bedroom. I tried taking him to the loo and he’d do it but under protest. I couldn’t understand why we had gone backwards. It made no sense. Dry all day and most night to this! I got the potty back out and put it in its place in the downstairs toilet. He went back to going to the toilet unaided and unasked. After a week I moved the potty again. He went back again to not using the toilet. At school he was using the toilets fine. No accidents there. I replaced the potty and he was fine. Even though he didn’t use it anymore.
So now I leave it where it is. He tends to go upstairs for his toilet needs so doesn’t even go near the potty downstairs. I wonder if it’s familiarity or a bit of reassurance knowing it’s there. Or maybe we had such fun learning to use it 🙄 he likes the visual. I don’t know what it is and he can’t tell me. I wonder if I should try moving it again, perhaps when he’s a bit more settled in his new class. I just don’t know. It seems a bit weird to keep a potty out as some kind of objet d’art, but then we aren’t that conventional. In my darker moments I wonder if the potty is sentient and has formed some kind of bond with Oliver and whispers to him “go for a wee now, you know you want to, go upstairs and flush the toilet”. I guess really it’s just another quirk to add to our list.