The run up to Christmas was not particularly good behaviour wise for Oliver. All the changes affected him so we took the pressure off, no homework and talking about the changes and learning Christmas sign. School reported an increase in his running off and concentration but it was nothing unexpected. Even so we decided to learn from lessons past to make it a perfect Christmas for everyone.
We went to carols and crib service on Christmas Eve and we decided to tag team it. Max and Popples love carols by candlelight but Oliver thinks it’s more fun to sit on the bishops chair or run up and down the narthex pointing at the safety notices. So me and dad decided to take it in turns to stay with him, swapping after every carol so it was less stressful and everyone got to take part- in their own way. We also now know every safety sign and exit in the church-bonus!
After church we came home to a drink, chocolate bar and the opening of the eve present, which is new pyjamas. Oliver even joined in by putting them on for ten minutes before changing into his usual pyjamas and Owlette costume. We left sherry and mince pies out for “farmer Christmas” and a carrot for the reindeer then they went to bed. Well, they went upstairs and messed about for two hours whilst we tried to build the playmobil and other things before the big day. It’s surprising how many times a four year old needs a wee in the space of thirty minutes. I think we got to bed about 2.
They were up at 8 the next morning, we had to rouse a grumpy Max but he cheered up when he saw a box of Maltesers sticking out of his stocking. This year Olly opened everything. Within an hour. No three day opening this year, his little fingers scrabbled at the sellotape and his face when he saw he’d got what he asked for was priceless. He asked for an owlette teddy from pj masks, Popples had asked for a fingerling and Max had asked for some very specific videos. Santa delivered. They all seemed really happy – a win for us this year.
Christmas dinner was beef wellington, chicken or festive Bolognese- it’s like normal bolognese but you get to pull a cracker and wear a festive hat. The boys decided that a full family dinner (mum, daughter, son in law and granddaughter) was too much so they ate in front of the tv watching a Christmas film. Then came in for pudding.
They stayed up later than usual, playing nicely and colouring then running around and squealing. Eating what they wanted and they even got a fizzy drink! Eventually went to bed, and to sleep. And I got a “merry Christmas” off everyone at bed time. That was one of the best gifts that day.
This Christmas there were no meltdowns, no fights and no expectations. Not much money either but the kids were happy and relaxed and we were more so too. We adapted so everyone got to do something they wanted at Christmas. We prepared for the worst case scenario and as a result I think we took pressure of ourselves as we had contingency plans and we knew that we were on the same page and what job each of us had in every scenario. We had a perfect family Christmas. Anyone looking in would probably not think so but they don’t count, they’re not us.
Hoping your Christmas was the best it good be